D i s c r e t i o n i s M y P r o f e s s i o n domina femdom
Maitresse Synthia
This is an introduction to Bondage, Discipline, Sadomasochism (BDSM). What you will learn here is just the "tip of the iceberg". I CANNOT EMPHASIZE ENOUGH the IMPORTANCE of learning as much as possible from as many resources as possible before getting involved in the lifestyle. I truly believe that we never stop learning, as long as we have an open mind. I recommend reading books, magazines and blogs, visiting a Professional Dominatrix, or a club or an event. Visiting websites and meeting other people who are in the lifestyle are also helpful. There are thousands of resources out there; you just have to find what works best for you! Scroll down to see My personal favorites!
#5 Follow
* When you are ready to schedule your first session, you should have already reviewed My site in its entirety. Fill out and submit My submission application, and then wait for My response, usually within 48 hours.
* Once I have reviewed and accepted your application, a session date and time will be scheduled.
* Upon your confirmation, I will send you your orders.
* For first time sessions ONLY... Upon entering My Sanctuary, you will be greeted by Me (or one of My slave girls) and shown to My parlor where you will be given a list of BDSM activities. you will rate each activity, informing Me of your level of interest in each of them. Then W/we will have a brief consultation, going over the activities, and I will answer any questions or concerns you might have at this time. W/we will then establish a safety word.
* Once you are an established submissive, upon entering My Sanctuary, you will be greeted by Me (or one of My slave girls). you will get naked, place your belongings in the metal box, and then proceed through the curtain to My Throne. Then you will get into the submit position and wait patiently for Me to enter the room.
* Upon My entrance, O/our session will officially begin.
* During session, you are expected to obey Me and follow all of My instructions. Everything from bottled water to bathroom breaks are considered a privilege. you may ask Me for anything, and I may or may not grant you permission.
* you will not only respect Me, but you will show respect to My slave girls and anyone else I invite to join U/us. NEVER touch Me or anyone else, unless you have been specifically instructed to do so.
* You are not to speak unless spoken to (you may request to speak, if you have a question <Maitresse, please may i have permission to speak?>)
* Once the session has ended, you will be given permission to shower (but not required to do so) and then you will get dressed. YOU ARE NOT TO LEAVE THE SANCTUARY until I personally give you permission.
* When you are ready to set up another session, you may do so by email, text or phone. I will give you My contact number at the end of your first session.(It is very important that you find out how your Domme prefers to communicate with her submissives. Some do not use text messaging, while others require that you text.)
* Some final important notes... Find out how The Domme would like to be addressed. you can call Me "Maitresse" or "Mistress". Calling Her anything other than what She instructs is considered rude. She will call you whatever she chooses!
* If at anytime during your session, you are not sure what you should be doing or where you should be waiting, assume Position #4 (stand), and wait for further instructions. Or ask for permission to speak.
* ALWAYS count your spankings, but ONLY count out loud when instructed to do so.
*** NEW *** Lesson #3 Safety *** NEW ***
#2 Inspect
#3 Attend
#4 Stand
Lesson #1 slave positions
Lesson #2: slave rules
#1 Submit
SAFETY…
Safe, sane and consensual! The most important part of BDSM play! I am going to divide this lesson into three parts:
Cleanliness: disinfecting, sanitizing, etc…
Physical safety: properly built equipment, safety with toys, etc...
Play safety: safe words, giving consent and respecting limits, etc...
CLEANLINESS: cleaning and disinfecting...
I take cleanliness very seriously. Ask anyone who knows Me and they will tell you that nothing in My Sanctuary can be too clean! I disinfect and sanitize EVERYTHING that is used after EVERY session. I have taken classes on blood borne pathogens, learning how to NOT spread them as well as learning how to properly disinfect everything. Not only do I want to protect Myself, I want to protect everyone else in My Sanctuary.
CaviCide™ is a medical grade disinfectant that I buy in bulk! Almost everything that touches a human body during a session is either sprayed, soaked or wiped down with CaviCide™. It is effective against the following microorganisms:
Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV-1)
Herpes Simplex Virus Types 1 & 2
Hepatitis B Virus (HBV)
Hepatitis C Virus (HCV)
Mycobacterium tuberculosis (BCG)
Influenza A2 virus
Salmonella
Staphylococcus aureus
And many others...
It is used in hospitals, surgical centers, waiting rooms, exam rooms, and Sanctuaries! I train all My girls on how to properly clean and disinfect everything, too!
I also wear gloves when I am working with sensitive parts and equipment. My main reason for this is for your protection. When inserting catheters or using sounds, the chance of infection is fairly high if proper handling is not followed. Gloves protect Me but I don't want you to get an infection, as you are no good to Me if you are sick!
When I am cleaning up after a session, any sheets or towels that are soiled with blood or have any unidentified stains, they are thrown away. The rest are washed in the hottest water, bleached and dried on the highest setting. Any outfits worn by Myself or a sub get washed accordingly, and disinfected if needed. Ropes, floggers, whips, cuffs, collars, etc… are all cleaned and disinfected.
I also have an autoclave that I use at times. Anything heat resistant that needs to be sterilized can be placed in the autoclave and within an hour, using extremely high heat and steam, the items are sterilized and ready to be played with again.
Well, I think I have covered the basics of cleaning and sterilizing. I would certainly consider this to be the non-glamorizing part of My work, but also one of the most important things that needs to be done.
*** Due to the current Covid 19 pandemic, I have adjusted My cleaning routine and use the CDC’s recommendations when it comes to sanitizing and cleaning. They recommend using bleach water on all surfaces. So now I include doorknobs, handles, pulls, and pretty much anything that can be touched, in My cleaning routine. I have worked way too hard to let a virus take Me down!!!
PHYSICAL SAFETY: proper use of toys and equipment, well built and properly placed furniture, etc…
I consider Myself lucky in this area because I have almost all of my furniture and equipment custom built for Me. Every strap, buckle and D-Ring in My Sanctuary has a purpose and has been measured for real life application. My Sanctuary is not very spacious so it is nice to have items made that fit perfectly into a corner or furniture that can be easily moved and stored quickly. It has been a trial and error process over the years but safety has always been one of My top priorities.
Those who know Me, know that I enjoy almost all activities in BDSM. A lot of what I do has the potential to cause both My subs and/or Myself harm, if it is not done correctly and with great care. I spent years training to do what I do. I have read books, taken classes, had professionals come to My Sanctuary and personally teach Me the majority of My Medical play activities, Sounds, Electric play, etc… I have NEVER (knock on wood) injured a sub or caused unintentional pain ;) and that is something that will not change!
I am CPR/First aid Certified but I would rather not have to test My lifesaving skills (and I do not know any Domme who would) so be honest with your Mistress and make sure She knows if you have heart issues or are prone to seizures, or have any medical condition that COULD possibly negatively affect your session.
If you are seeing a Mistress with less than three years experience, you need to make sure She knows what She is doing. A true professional will inform you in advance if She is using you as a guinea pig! Of course there is nothing wrong with that as long as you trust Her and everything is safe, sane and consensual.
PLAY SAFETY: safe words, giving consent and respecting limits, etc...
Communication is the number one priority when it comes to play safety. You need to be open and honest with your Mistress, this is not the time to try and impress Her. Trust is also important and you should feel completely comfortable sharing all of your deep-seated fantasies and thoughts that are tucked away in your dirty little minds. The more open and honest you are with your Mistress, the better your experience will be.
Your Mistress should have a way for you to let her know what your interests are AND what your “hard Limits'' are. I personally have a checklist with over 100 activities listed for My subs to complete. They can tell Me if they are Very interested, curious, will participate but not really into it, or a firm NO/ “hard limit”. It is also a good idea to periodically update the activities list because over time, as you build trust, you might be more open to try new things. What really gets My juices flowing is when a sub tells Me to push his boundaries.
You also need to establish a safe word before you play. Your Mistress might have one that she prefers or if you have one, let her know! Either way, make sure you are both clear on what it will be. Also, if you will be gagged or in a position where you will be unable to communicate verbally, you will need to come up with a sign or gesture that you can use.
Aftercare is an essential part of every session. A lot of sessions can be physically and emotionally draining for both Myself and My subs. I appreciate it when a sub gives Me feedback, this can be during aftercare or they can email Me a day or two later after they have had time to process the experience. The more transparent the sub is regarding his experience, the better his next session will be!
Of course, no talk about physical safety would be complete without mentioning “marks”. I would hate to think of how you would have to explain those bruises and welts on your little bottom while in the gym locker room. Therefore, it is very important to communicate to your Mistress whether or not lasting marks need to be avoided.
Lesson #1 slave positions
Lesson #2 slave rules
Lesson #3 Safety ***NEW***
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Every Domme has Her own set of rules. These are the rules that I enforce at My Sanctuary. At all times, submissives shall show respect. Make sure you understand The Domme's initial process for setting up a session. If She has a website, READ the entire site PRIOR to contacting Her. More than likely, the answers to any questions you may have, can be found by reading Her website. Value Her time, and DO NOT bombard Her with endless emails or phone calls before your first session! If She is a True Pro Domme, you are not Her only sub. If She were to chat back and forth with EVERY hopeful sub, that is all She would have time to do!!
Communication is VERY important. I find that most Pro Dommes know what information They need from you, and how to procure that information in order for your time together to be enjoyable. I personally have all new subs fill out My submission application, and then I have a brief consultation prior to the start of O/our first session. Again, All Pro Dommes are not the same. If you want to make a good first impression (and believe Me, you do!), follow Her individual instructions. These are Mine...
I personally have five slave positions that I require My slaves to learn. They are:
1. Submit
2. Inspect
3. Attend
4. Stand
5. Follow
It should be noted that there are other positions, but I only use the five listed above.
My slaves are required to disrobe when they enter My Sanctuary, so they present themselves to Me naked, freshly showered and completely shaved. Once they have disrobed, they enter and assume Position #1, submit, while they await My entrance. Upon entering, I make sure that they are correctly positioned. Then I call out "Inspection," and My slaves move into Position #2. I then take My flashlight and check to make sure they are clean and completely shaved. On the rare occasion that I am not satisfied with their grooming, I will reprimand them and then groom them Myself so they know how to present themselves to Me properly, in the future. See the photos below to view each position.
The following books were all used as a reference for this page and for My glossary. I highly recommend checking them out!
SM 101 Wiseman, J. (1998) San Francisco, CA: Greenery Press.
The Mistress Manual Mistress Lorelei. (2000) San Francisco, CA: Greenery Press.
Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns Miller, P. and Devon, M. (2004).Fairfield, CT: Mystic Rose Books.
Some websites I like are:
Ambrosio's BDSM Site
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